#MeToo

I came across the following article about an exhibition of clothing that survivor’s of sexual assault wore the day of the crime. It seared itself into my psyche, and whilst I found it confronting, the biggest emotion I felt was rage; unadulterated rage. Anger that the public may require visual representations to even attempt to understand what the victim had endured.

Let me tell you a story… Once upon a time, there was a fourteen year old girl, living in Sydney during a typical Aussie summer. A grown man hovered, and she remarked to anyone who would listen that she found his attentions “creepy.” Upon discovering her alone one evening, he mentioned that if he were her, he would make sure that he wore jeans and a long top wherever she went, especially if he was around.  It was said as though it were a warning, and chilled her to the bone. It stuck in her brain, and she found herself wearing both jeans and long top as she prepared for a picnic, despite it being a heatwave. He wasn’t supposed to be coming, but at the last moment, hopped on the bus. Once they had reached their destination, the girl looked about, envious at other young women dressed in shorts and singlet tops, and angry she felt that she had to cover up in the extreme heat. The end result of the picnic was that she was raped. Her exhibit would be jeans and a long top, covered with dirt and sweat… My exhibit. Not only did the adults present not save me, neither did my choice of outfit.  Sexual violence is about power and control, not about what one is wearing. It never was. 

I have known many girls, whom at puberty, have felt uncomfortable with leering strangers and commentary from familiar people about their changing bodies, and have thus worn shapeless jumpers and cargo pants, even in the height of summer. It breaks my heart. It reminds me of  that time… When I see young people in shorts and singlets in hot weather, I rejoice. They are free, their skin able to cool itself, unencumbered. 

I have watched with dismay as the truth about Harvey Weinstein comes under not only a spotlight, but a search-light. The truth, at last! It can’t be hidden forever, no more than your dress can be blamed for a crime committed against you. I leave with the following from the sage Emma Thompson.

 

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  1. Hi Raphaela,
    You make an excellent point in your blog post today. May I also draw your attention to a BBC campaign called 100 women. I was listening to the discussion on the radio overnight. They are campaigning to stop sexual harrassment on public transport where it is rife. The website for the campaign and related stories is here:
    http://www.bbc.com/news/topics/875e94b8-021d-4411-93f4-a8d5e09d6adb/100-women
    A panel discussion came up with a great slogan – “It is a women’s problem but it is the man’s fault.” The discussion acknowledged that the problem is systemic and it is the men who need to change their attitudes and behaviours. Women have been changing their behaviours to try and avoid becoming victims but it doesn’t work because the problem isn’t caused by women or what we wear or how we look. No matter what women do, the problem has remained for decades, centuries. The problem is caused by men so we need to get men to take action to change the culture.
    The story about Lisa Wilkinson walking out of Seven’s Today program made the BBC international news too. Good for her. If women keep being vocal and backing each other up, many more might be able to find the courage to fight back and speak out knowing that there is a sisterhood of women ready to support them.
    Whatever our differences, women need to support each other without fail in order to force this change.
    The exhibition is a great way to ram home the point that what we wear makes no difference and no person ever asks to be assaulted.

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