I love this so much! It’s a natural tendency to try and make people feel better, but sometimes the best thing we can do is to sit with the person and their pain with empathy.
Because you can’t, sometimes things just can’t be fixed
Just cheer up, it will be okay!
Just take a deep breath and calm down.
Just count to 10 or walk away.
We’re having trouble getting pregnant.
Just adopt! Just relax! Just stopping trying!
We think these above statements are empathy. But, really they are pity filled sympathetic responses to provide that quick fix; our attempt to try to make it better.
It seems like empathy skills are missing for a lot of us. We aren’t taught how to be empathic and, I think, we even sometimes think we would rather have sympathy than empathy.
Sympathy is I feel for you; pity.
Empathy is I feel with you; I get it.
A think a major confusion is that we are mistaken in thinking that we must have gone through the exact same…
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